Katherine Winter-Sellery says society has a transgenerational parenting approach where parents use a reward and punish system when raising children.
Think of times when you may have sent your child to his or her room when your child misbehaved — or maybe you gave your child a dessert. Winter-Sellery wants residents to change that parenting approach.
“We must develop children who are in touch with their inner world,” said Winter-Sellery.
Winter-Sellery lost her brother Chris to suicide when she was only 16, leaving an impactful mark on her life. She says on her website that the loss of her brother helped drive her to look at how children and parents can learn to communicate in a different dynamic.
Winter-Sellery did just that and founded the Conscious Parenting Revolution, which is focused on eliminating the three R’s from parenting techniques and parent-child relationships. The three R’s are resentment, rebellion and resistance.
Winter-Sellery said that if children are feeling overwhelmed, they start to misbehave. That overwhelmed feeling can be common as everyone, including children, go through the COVID-19 pandemic.
“What (children) need is support to be able to get through something. For us to have the compassion to support them is a huge shift from the way parents look at so called bad behavior,” said Winter-Sellery.
Winter-Sellery believes children are capable of making their own decisions, with support from their parents. When children don’t have self-control, it can be displayed through outbursts, resistance or aggression. Winter-Sellery says it’s important not to blame children when they display those actions.
Parents should learn how to listen to their children, and that can help their child navigate through bad behavior.
Winter-Sellery offers these tips to parents:
Parents should put themselves in the present. That can be done by observing breathing, and when parents are in the present, they can handle difficult thinking.
Winter-Sellery believes meditating for at least a minute a day can make a difference in our lives. She says humans have the tendency to live in the past or the future. But when you live in the present, life can be easier to manage.
Parents should ask their children to explain their feelings. If people succumb to being in a worried state, their minds can spiral out of control.
Winter-Sellery says that if parents change the way they see things, they can respond to their children differently other than the using the reward and punish system.
Each Thursday, Winter-Sellery is hosting free online sessions for parents. The sessions can be found online at consciousparentingrevolution.com.
The seminars give parents an opportunity to discuss their personal family dynamics, and they can learn how Winter-Sellery’s approach to parenting can help solve family conflicts.
“It’s just my giveback to the community,” said Winter-Sellery.